My World Stops When I’m With You

Dear Lincoln,

I overslept the other day (It happens when you’re 8 months pregnant). Dad gently woke me up and asked if I was going to work. I asked him what time it was and he said, “7.” My eyes went wide open. “WHAT?! Why didn’t you wake me earlier?!” I was kind of mad that I dad didn’t wake me up earlier. And at this point, you are a pretty good kid. If we’re still sleeping, you just turn on that Ninja Turtle light and stare at the stars. I got up, got your milk, went inside your room, gave you your milk and left. I got ready. I told myself, I can’t say goodbye to him. I need to leave, I’m already late. But somehow, I just had to see you before I left for work. I though, I’ll just go in for a little bit.

But you know what? Time stops when I’m with you. You got up and demanded to be held. How can I deny you that? My world just stopped. It didn’t matter that I was going to be late. You bring me such calm and joy. It was definitely something that I needed that morning. Thank you for being you.

How we came up with Carver

Dear Carver,

I’m not sure if you’ll like your name or not, but I wanted to let you know how we came up with Carver. I think it’s very unique and I haven’t seen anyone named Carver. You see, when I found out I was pregnant with you, I called you my little peanut. Lincoln was my jellybean, so you became my peanut. Everybody started calling you peanut because we haven’t thought of a name for you, yet.

Your dad and I were thinking and thinking what would be a cool name. Since Lincoln is a name of a great President, I thought we should name you after a great scientist. Newton (dad didn’t like, because it will be short for Newt), Darwin (dad wasn’t a fan, either). None of the science greats really spoke to us and got us excited, like when we named Lincoln.

At one point, I wanted to name you Abraham. I thought it was clever. Dad said no. I thought, what about Jayson (get it?! Jay-son) Dad thought it was too cheesy and weird. So he decided to go back to the Presidents theme. Another great President. Maybe a Democrat this time. We just couldn’t decide. At one point, we were going to name you Churchill, the man who saved Europe. But, for some people, it’s kind of difficult to pronounce. But Churchill was definitely a close second.

So we were in the car and your dad yells out Carver! “George Washington’s middle name was Carver, I think. Karen, look up George Washington’s middle name.” I did. George Washington didn’t have a middle name. Every where I looked, it was just George Washington. BUT, there was a George Washington Carver and he has a pretty amazing story. Born into slavery and became a freed man, he pursued education with passion and curiosity, and became an inventor and botanist. And you know what the most amazing thing was? He basically created the peanut industry in the US. He was THE peanut specialist and also testified in Congress about the Peanut industry in the US, during a time it was uncommon for an African American man to testify. He was mocked by Southern congressional members, but you know what? Committee members kept on extending his time for his testimonial.

So there you have it, Carver. It’s like fate. That is how we came up with your name. It spoke to us. And I hope you are just as passionate and curious as Carver was about learning no matter what obstacles come your way. We love you so much and we can’t wait to meet you.

Paternity Leave

Dear Lincoln and Carver,

For the past couple of days I’ve been seen stuff on Paternity Leave. Yesterday, while reading the Economist, I saw an ad from a company talking about Paternity leave and a father trying to “have it all.” Today, I saw an ad on Facebook for a petition to sign for Congress about paid having paid leave for new fathers.

I hope when it’s your time to have children that we are more cognizant that fathers also need some time with their babies. Both of you are very lucky in that daddy currently works from home and you get to see him often. I think it really does make a difference in your relationship with him in the future. I also know that he aches to see you if he doesn’t get to see you during the day. However, in order for us to have paid paternity leave, we need a cultural shift. I’m hoping this shift will happen in your lifetime so that you can enjoy some time with your children as much as we enjoy our time with you.